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Verbal Intercourse
Are we losing the sweet art of conversing: that pleasure of a great greeting, the comfort of a warm meeting, the rejuvinating calm of a memorable new tale, the joy of sharing, friendly fun socializing, that sense of being there and looking forward to being there again; the flowering of a fresh new day - that genuine let's do it again glitter reflected in the eye?
How would you describe your panel of conversations? You are probably engaged in a variety of different kinds (information, negotiation, persuasion, discovery, etc.), but in general, what is your sense of their overall ongoing quality and impact? Passive? Aggressive? Invigorating? Aggravating? Argumentative? Delightfull? One-sided? Unsettling?
Conversing is a sensual activity. If we were to reframe it in sensual terms - positively - as desireable intercourse, how would you choose to approach it for optimal mutual benefit? What if we were to do it the way some of our superheroes do it as a few experts have recommended. In capsule:
- to seek to understand before seeking to be understood
- to demonstrate that understanding
- to collaborate to reach creative solutions
- to discover and dispense with bad habits, such as drifting off while conversing
- to NOT listen with intent to criticize (set aside verbal weapons)
- to practice, i.e., to lend an ear wherever practicable (listening to learn).
- to choose the most effective communication chanel beneficial to the person engaged: face to face? phone? email? text?
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It came time for the square space big reveal. The fact that my eyes almost fell out at the sight could not near measure the moment the owner saw it! Bliss! No exageration. On time. On budget too. And for a moment there I thought I would witness buck-naked excitement. That is why I was so keen to reflect upon their original meeting and on the course of their conversation - the manner of it, the process, and the progression - from foreplay to orgasm: no hurry, no rush nor fandangle. It was so enjoyable to witness and follow, one's memory of the experience is longlasting. It seemed they were pretty much (in the most beautifully un-orchestrated fashion) engaging the highly recommended steps shown above. So smooth.
I think it is more than worth our while to practice doing it that way too. It's all about to be extra special for us, I anticipate. Well! Let's just say we'll have to work it a few times.
Next up: the house. It's not finished, but I got a sneak peek. Phenomenal. I say it is time to reassess the quality of our CONVERSATIONS. It has the potential to change everything, for we are, aren't we, by nautre of our social proclivities, effective cross-pollinators.
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Life: it is a dance. It gets better with practice; its music is in your heart and in your soul and in your blood and in your bones. Life; it is a dance. It gets better with practice. You have a partner – your spirit. You can have a party if you like, but choose smartly who you invite, for life – your life – is a dance. It gets better with practice, unless you stop the music or so crowd your dance floor there is no space to move or be moved within it. Explore. Yes, life; it is a dance. It gets better with practice until the dance becomes the dancer and the dancer becomes the dance and life and all of existence becomes a singular flow. Yes, life; it is a dance. It gets better with practice. Dance.
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Versatility: You probably haven't thought about this before, so clear out some brain space for a second. It's worth a moment: the human being. Think of everything happening or that has ever happened in this world that you know of: good, bad and indifferent. Take a panoramic view of history: of all that has been done and undone, of our progression through time as far back as you are able, of what is being done, of geniuses and clowns and saints and villains and despots and great leaders and lovers and every kind of person and profession and action in every field of endeavor. Grab as much as you can from every corner of your memory and your uderstanding. Take it all in: every system, every operation, your politics, your religions, your cultures. Your learnings. Your unlearnings. Everything accomplished and being accomplished. Take it all in. Every bit of it was done and is being done by one being: the human. Think of it. One human being replicated over and over and over again. How many billion times. One human! What a design. What a creation! A human being! Now that is versatility. Whoever, whatever, or however such a design was put into being - that is beyond genius. One being. Replicated. The human. A masterpiece. How dare you think yourself less than! How dare you think yourself not enough! How dare you think yourself better than anyone else! Human. That's what you are. The very definition of versatile. Wake up! Goodmorning.
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